The magical cure!

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Let me say this clearly: There. is. NO. magical cure. to. your. problems! Not medication. Not counseling. There is NO Harry Potter magic. There are only tools. Tools that will allow you to do work. Medication is a tool. Counseling is a tool. Along with the tools of medication and counseling we use a variety of other in our recovery. But, and listen/read closely, there are no magical cures. Deal with it.

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What is Self-Discipline?

              I admit it: I lack self-discipline, though I used to have much better self-discipline in the past, I think. I used to be much more productive, like I got loads done every day. If I’m being honest though, I think I just had good habits.

I’ve spent months thinking about self-discipline: what it really is and how to cultivate more of it in myself. I searched around the blogosphere reading what others had to say on the subject. What I found was most people seem to associate self-discipline with productivity and having good habits. What they had to say made a lot of sense, but something didn’t sit right with me, something was missing. On further contemplation I figured out what was troubling me: self-discipline is more than “getting things done”, really it’s all about self-control.

In the past I’ve exercised what I thought was self-discipline by having good habits and denying my needs. Of course there’s nothing wrong with having good habits: it’s actually a good thing, but it’s not self-discipline. When I would deny my needs that wasn’t self-discipline either: that was self-shaming. I would deny myself socialization, relaxation, material things, and even food. This faux-discipline was me telling myself that I didn’t deserve to socialize, relax, buy new things or that I hadn’t earned the right to eat that day.

Through education, reflection, and contemplation my current understanding is that self-discipline consists mainly of two symbiotic parts: control over our impulses and prioritizing our long-term needs over our short-term wants. These two parts feed off of and reinforce the other. When we prioritize our long-term goals we can better short circuit and block the impulses that distract us from what we really need. When we are able to control our impulsive wants we are better able to work towards our long-term needs.

With this new understanding of what self-discipline is and what it is not I’m better able to be productive: more so, I have had a better control over my inner-self and not subjugated by my impulses in the face of adversity. My new found self-discipline has only brought me an enhanced state of being, and will continue to do so as I deepen my understanding of and practice authentic self-discipline.

 

Keep Stepping Forward, and Good Luck!

-Will

 

 

Scott Adams- Wishes Vs Wants

Overview:

It’s all about making a decision, according to Adams, the decision to do the work and pay the price. He informs the reader that it’s easy to make wishes, but with wishes there will never be action. Action, according to Adams, only comes after deciding. Once one decides that they want, they will begin to take action to make their wishes a reality.

Scott explains that every wish has a price associated with it. When we are unwilling to pay the price for the wish, it stays in our head, merely a wish. However, when we decide that we are willing to pay the price of our wish then we take action to bring our wish out of our head and into the world.

Examples-

Wishes/Wants:

Wishing I had a million dollars. / Working diligently in an industry with a high salary… or robbing banks.

Wishing I were fit. / Going to the gym every day and eating healthy.

Wishing to be more social. / Going out with friends/family/co-workers or joining clubs or other groups.

How it relates to people like us:

People like us tend to have many wishes; we need to do a better job at making those wishes reality. We must decide to pay the price for the wishes that will help us improve our lives. Separate the wishes that you really want to achieve and the ones that you don’t care to put the work into. Once you’ve done that, make a plan on how to achieve your wants and put your plans into action.

 

Check out my review of the full book Scott Adams: How to fail at nearly everything and still win big .

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Click here to go to the Amazon page for Scott’s book.

Good luck, and keep Stepping forward,

-Will